Guest blogger Patrick Banks shares his dating advice to help you rock your first date!
We all love the dating game. Meeting with a new person is like entering a brand new land. You don’t know where you’re going, who they are or what you might find. Your first date can be amazing or a total disaster. No matter of your age or your style, there are several crucial things to keep in mind before you get gussied up and run out to meet your date.
Look Your Best
You only get one chance to make a first impression, so try to put forth your best self. Don’t over-dress one way or the other, be comfortable, but nice. He will surely appreciate some effort from your part. Play it safe. Dressing for a black tie dinner or wearing sweatpants could send the wrong impression, so show that you care too without being intimidating or too much provocative.
Ask Questions, But You’re Not a Detective
Learning about someone is crucial, but be careful not to overdo it. It is perfectly natural to be curious about his life, but don’t make turn it into a cross examination or job interview. Simply ask what he enjoys in his work the most; or what his passions are. Pleasant conversation can trigger some emotions during a date, so keep the conversation organic and don’t force the issue.
Feel Free to Flirt
Flirting is part of the natural process of being on a date. A joke or a smile will signal whether or not the date is going well and can relax the mood. Like with everything – moderation is the key, do what comes naturally to you. You don’t have to try TOO hard, let it come naturally.
Don’t try TOO hard
Don’t try to impress him at any cost. A date can make you feel obligated to act one way or another, but be yourself. Be confidant in who you are and you will find that this will result in your best dates. You both showed up, you’re making pleasant conversation; you’re trying to have a nice time. And that’s enough! Don’t do anything else unless you feel that you are comfortable. Show him your interest but don’t seem overexcited too quickly, because he may find you desperate.
He’s Not Out of Your League
Confidence is an attractive quality. The first date can always be a bit of a surprise, but and if you find yourself impressed by him upon your first meeting, be confident. Even if you really like the man who is sitting in front of you, show him this, but try to make it appear a bit nonchalant. He is choosing to go on a date with you too, and might be just as nervous meeting you. Remember that you’re worth it and never forget it!
Most of All, Have Fun
Isn’t that what dating is all about it? There is a lot of outside pressure on a first date to immediately connect, but just go with the flow and enjoy every single second. Your good mood and honest smile is the best aphrodisiac you have. And if the date doesn’t work out, at least you can say that you had a fun night and it won’t be a total loss. And don’t worry, there are plenty of fish in the sea!
Good luck out there ladies!
Patrick Banks is a Berlin based writer with over 5 years of experience providing sex and dating advice. He is a fierce optimist who believes in the power of making life happen; enjoy being single and making the most of it. He offers advice on dating and helpful tips.