Have you ever taken the time to look for patterns in your life? You know what I mean. We all do things by habitually and the reality is, sometimes you don’t notice the patterns unless you write about them on a blog. When I’ve gone back and looked at posts from, my old dating blog, I’ve noticed a downward spiral in my mood sometime in early January each year. This is definitely due to the weather, the lack of natural sunlight, the depreciation of vitamin D, and anything else that is negatively related to the New England winter. Because I’ve noticed these trends, I’ve worked really hard to try to battle some of these challenges that I face year after year. 

A few years ago, I went to visit my parents in March, who were staying in Florida, and I was ready to pack my bags and move there after a few days of sun and relaxation. But a few hours after I landed back in Boston, I called my mom and said that I did not want to leave my home. As much as I enjoyed being in the sun, I didn’t want to leave my life back in Boston. But it was good for me to have a short break and to get some sunshine. This winter and spring are very busy at work. Unfortunately, because of the timing of our annual gala, I am not able to go visit my parents in Florida. So this afternoon, after spending a significant amount of time looking for good prices, I booked an excursion to the happiest place on earth…for me… Rome, Italy!

Listen, I got an amazing deal, but it isn’t as if I’m rolling in the dough. I rationalized booking this trip as an investment in my mental health. I think I may have written in an earlier post that I said to a few people in the last six months, that I truly believe that if I keep going the way I am in my life that I will die young from a heart attack or stress. I don’t want that to happen. So I am really trying to be more mindful and take care of myself. I’ve chosen a line of work that doesn’t allow for any moment of pause or relaxation when you’re in the throes of it, so it’s up to me to carve out time where I can focus on the things that I love. And for me, since 1996, the one thing that gives me absolute joy is spending time in Rome. Throw in a Caravaggio painting or sculpture by Bernini, and I’m in heaven.

But, really, it doesn’t matter what I’m doing. I can be sitting on the stoop in a random Piazza. Or, I can grab a piece of pizza at a local Italian bar. Or, I can be sipping espresso while watching people walk by. It doesn’t really matter. The pure joy of being in Rome is enough.

When I was in Rome earlier this year, I felt no depression or anxiety. I just walked and walked and walked throughout the city, and enjoyed every moment.

Is it April yet?


Have you dated an “Ethan Blumenthal?”

In the process of writing a review of the film “Blumenthal” for the Boston Jewish Film Festival and, I started realizing more and more that I’ve definitely dated the lead character, Ethan.  Or, should I say, an amalgamation of Ethan, as I saw many components of the men I’ve dated over the years in him.

blumenthal1Let’s dissect, shall we?

1.  Ethan is Jewish.

Yes, many of the men I’ve dated over the years have been Jewish.  That one’s easy.

2. Ethan is a bit self absorbed.

I’d say 90% of the men in my life were self-absorbed.  The men who weren’t?  They’re the ones I still kick myself for letting them get away.

3. Ethan is selfish in bed.

I try to keep this blog pretty vanilla PG-13…but since I leave the “13” option in, I’ll just say that those 90% I mentioned above?  Yep, you got it.  Selfish AND self absorbed!

4. Ethan is loving.

There are those 10% (you know who you are because I know you read this blog).  I’m thinking of two past men in my life who are both happily married with adorable families who were loving, caring and super sweet during the tenure of our relationship.

5. Ethan is dedicated to his family.

For the most part, I’ve dated some wonderful men who had wonderful relationships with their family.  There was, of course, the momma’s boy who obviously hadn’t cut those apron strings yet (perhaps that’s why he was into MILF porn) but in general, I’ve met some wonderful family men.

You need to watch this film and learn about Ethan yourself.  Live in Boston?  Go see it at the Film Festival!  And this giggly girl is excited because Ethan Blumenthal – himself – will be there to talk about the film!  Ok, so it is actually Writer/Director/Actor Seth Fisher, but  girl can fantasize, eh?  Hubba Hubba!