I’ve been working long days planning a big event for work. It’s a bit after 9pm and I just dove into my PJs as fast a possible. Putting on my PJs is arguably my favorite part of the day.
But tonight I felt grimy. My face felt icky. Oh! I had forgotten to take off my make-up. I have this unbelievable foundation that literally stays on for 13 hours. Yep, I put it on at 8am this morning and there was a large amount that came off on my makeup remover pad.
I don’t remember where I’ve heard the expression “taking my face off” but I love it. I googled it in the hopes of teaching you fine people something but all I could find were youtube clips for the movie “Face/Off.”
Anyhow, these are what I use to take my face off. They even smell good!
Just got home from Nordstrom. I’m speaking at a gala next week, and running one for work in a few months, so I needed something ideally to wear to both. I spent a lot of time in advance doing some browsing online for ideas. I looked at Nordstrom, Lord & Taylor, Lane Bryant to name a few. I’m what the fashion industry calls “plus sized” so finding cute dresses to try on that don’t look too frumpy or boxy can be challenging. At the same time, I don’t want something that’s designed for a teenager to wear to prom.
I stopped at Lord & Taylor and tried on about 5 dresses. They all looked dreadful on me and I felt like a blob. Instead of getting discouraged, I walked over to Nordstrom where I knew I’d get help from the sales associate.
I grabbed a stack of dresses and headed for the nicest dressing room I’ve ever seen. Seriously – it had a purple velvet couch. Anyhow, I digress. The first 6 or so dresses were pretty but not flattering. Then I tried on this one:
It was very flattering. The eye is drawn right to the waist, which is a nice focal point.
It’s made by Adrianna Papell, one of my favorite dress designers. And the tag said $91, but it rang up $56 on sale! Can’t beat that.
I walked out of the store feeling very satisfied. I found a great flattering dress at a great price. I am sure I have some cute shoes in my closet, and can’t wait to raid my own jewelry box.
I’m grateful that I didn’t give up.
I know what you’re thinking. TLC’s What Not to Wear? It’s so last year and its so off the air now. But, I’m always a little behind the curve when it comes to basic cable shows because, unless they’re available on Netflix or Hulu, I don’t usually get to see them (says this internet-only “tv” viewer). But recently, two seasons of What Not to Wear popped up in my Netflix queue so I spent the last two evenings binge watching it.
And, truth be told, I love this show. I’ve always loved watching makeover shows and this one is the best because it shows how women – in all shapes and sizes – can transform themselves with new clothes, a new haircut and makeup. It’s not a dramatic change but it often appears to be life changing for many of the contestants on the show.
I see a pattern in many of these women who are ambushed by their friends and family, swept away to NYC, and meant to embrace their new look in one week. They justified their old frumpy looks by saying, “But it is comfortable” or “I rely on my brains for people to like me.”
Can you relate? I can.
I cannot tell you how many times I told my therapist that I wanted a guy to be attracted to me for my brain rather than my appearance. “But I’m smart,” I would tell her, “And they should like me no matter how I look.”
Ok, great in theory, but the reality is: the way you represent yourself matters.
I’m a little embarrassed at how often I wear hoodies. And sneakers. And jeans. I’m 38 years old, so it is probably not the best thing to wear every Saturday and Sunday. But it’s comfortable.
Yeah, but sometimes you have to step up your game.
I’m determined to wake up tomorrow, take a refreshing shower, and put on makeup. And feel good about myself.
How about you?