My mom is the strongest and bravest person I know. ❤️
My mom is the strongest and bravest person I know. ❤️
Sometimes I feel like I’m standing on my tiptoes, teetering very delicately, trying not to fall to one side or another. On one shoulder, I’m juggling a relatively new job (less than 1 year), a new relationship (a couple of months), home ownership (must. replace. lightbulbs.). On the other shoulder, I balance my own health issues (you’ve heard about them about them all here), mom’s cancer, and dad’s need for support. How does one balance it all?
And, how do you factor in the self care?
It’s crucial to find time for self care. I have found that when I sacrifice myself to help others, I can crumble.
I’m working on it. I had a manicure today – checked my work email during it, of course – and will be chilling out with Mr T tonight, which is always enjoyable. And, although this sounds weird, we’re doing a really cool event in NYC for work that I wanted to attend, so I am going to NYC next week for the day. This allows me the opportunity to see my folks as well. So, it’s a balance of helping others and enjoying the work that I do.
I tell you, I am generally exhausted all of the time. I’ve been relaxing at home (when I can) with 7 (?) seasons of the show, The Closer. I think I’m midway through season 3. It’s one of those formulaic crime shows, so you can pretty much predict how it will end and the crime gets tied up in a little bow at the end of each episode. There are a few longer storylines, but in general, you can watch one or two episodes, and be satisfied. It’s funny how these type of shows are calming for me, despite the fact that it is a cop show. Perhaps it makes my life seems small and insignificant in perspective, which isn’t always a bad thing.
Didn’t mean to get on a TV tangent!
Now to focus on changing the light bulbs….
While I was recovering from my second (gulp, yes!) gum graft and frenectomy, I did a ton of googling and didn’t find a lot of reporting from patients on what to expect. Most of the things I found online were from periodontist offices, which is helpful, but I thought I’d share some of my survival tips for future oral surgery patients.
A little background first: I had a gum graft and frenectomy about a year and a half ago. When I went to visit my dentist for my first teeth cleaning post-oral surgery, he told me that the doctor didn’t do it well and I would need it to be repeated. Sigh. Not what you want to hear after 3 months of recovery! It took me another year to schedule the re-do because I had started a new job, but this past January 4, 2017, I went under the knife again.
It’s been about 2 weeks and I’m healing very well. I went for my follow-up today and I’m on the road to recovery! Here are my main learnings from this second experience.
Good luck with your gum graft and/or frenectomy from one oral surgery survivor to another!
Have you ever heard of or used the term “cocooning?” Urban dictionary describes it as “retreating to the seclusion of your home (as for privacy or escape).”
I had no idea, but apparently I am a classic “cocooner.” I knew I like to hang out along at home, but I didn’t know it had a name. Apparently the term was coined in 1981 by marketing forecaster Faith Popcorn. Coincidentally, when I cocoon, I often consume popcorn, but I digress.
So, how exactly do I cocoon? Well, first of all, you know that feeling of joy when you finally land into bed at the end of a long day? Yes, you get it. Once I hop into bed, I’m cocooning. I will often bury myself under the covers with my iPad or laptop or a good book, often with my head also under the covers. You know, like we did when we were kids long after our lights were supposed to out and we were supposed to be sound asleep. I’m pretty sure I’ve been doing this since I was a kid – back then, I used an “itty bitty book light” to nest under the covers. (The link from Amazon is a much fancier one than I had!).
This past weekend I was staying in a hotel and feeling pretty down – residual stuff from a few weeks ago (see last few posts). I didn’t even mean to, but I began cocooning! I woke up in the middle of the night, nestled under the covers, with the hood of my hoodie pj shirt tucked around my head! Made me laugh!
Faith Popcorn is now exploring cocooning and millennials, as written in this online article. Faith describes cocooning as:
It’s about hiding out at home rather than going out, and it’s about maximizing your comfort when you are home and bringing parts of the culture inside. Think about “binge watching”—this is Cocooning in action. Rather than going out to the movies, we sit at home and endlessly stream an entire series all weekend long.
I imagine a lot of us cocoon nowadays – maybe not with your head buried under a hoodie like me – but certainly with binge watching House of Cards or the latest Netflix show. We curl up on the couch and settle in for a few hours of escape.
I enjoy cocooning. It gives me a sense of comfort that I likely used to get when I would emotionally eat during my 15-year battle with binge eating disorder. I’m glad I’ve found a benign way to find the same joy and escapism I found when overeating, but with little consequence other than a wasted afternoon.
For 41 years now I’ve been a sugar addict. I love my carbs, I love my sugar. It can be in the form of fruit, bread, chocolate, cupcakes, ice pops. You name it. Delish.
Recently, I started taking a medication that helps curb my sugar cravings. It’s unreal. Today, I took one bite of this delicious chocolate cake at work, and thought my mouth was going to explode from the sugar intake. Like, explode in a bad way. I pushed it away.
Unreal, right? It’s fabulous. Fabulous, I tell you.
Thank you Apple for adding a screen filter in the latest iOS update. I firmly believe that looking at the bluish tint of my phone screen or iPad late at night affected my sleep. I spent the last several weeks, prior to the update, looking for an app that could change the screen to a “yellow-ish” tint, unbeknownst to me that this upgrade was coming.
Listen, this new blog is all about mindfulness and enjoying the small things that make our life better. The screen that doesn’t keep me up at night is something to be praised. Hallelujah!
Ever splurged on something that ended up changing your life? Me too.
A while back I was wandering around the mall and ended up being suckered into purchasing a ridiculously expensive pillow from the Tempur-Pedic store. This full-priced luxurious specimen of a pillow was so fancy that it came in a zippered plastic case with a handle. I didn’t walk out of the mall that day. Rather, I glided, giddy at the potential of my solid night’s sleep.
You see, before I bought this fancy pillow, I was buying pillows on clearance at Target and Marshalls, disappointed with them a few weeks after purchasing them. My night’s sleep was not transformed like the advertisements promised.
Those inferior pillows had nothing on the Tempur-Pedic.
It was worth every penny. Seriously. Now I admit that you’re supposed to change your pillow more often, but I basically held onto that Tempur-Pedic until every last bit of puffy joy was slept out of it.
Now it’s practically a pancake pillow and my neck is starting to get sore from using it.
What was I going to do? I couldn’t go back to Target. I just couldn’t.
I walked by the mall recently and peaked my head into the Tempur-Pedic store, but I didn’t dare let myself go in.
“No!” I told myself. “Too expensive!”
And then I got home and began to google. And low-and-behold, my pillow was discontinued and now available as a closeout on Groupon Goods.
5 minutes ago, I pressed click and purchased a brand new, 50% cheaper Tempur-Pedic.
Already counting down the days until it arrives.